Wednesday, June 3, 2015


Despite our joy, elation, and pure excitement I was hesitant to share our good news with the world. I just wasn't ready to cope with the possibility of having to "untell"- so it was just our little good news- just me & hubby.
However, I was ready to tell our parents and siblings sooner than I thought. We would be spending nearly two weeks at my parents house over the Christmas holiday and my recurrent pregnancy loss was a little cumbersome so they would eventually ask what the heck I was doing. We decided (after a bit of pro and con weighing) that we would share our news on Christmas Day.
Everyone's initial reaction was "nuh-uh!" Uhhh guys-why would we lie about this! It was too funny to see them try to put together what we were saying. After everyone had opened gifts, we "found" a gift under the tree to Buggy that must've somehow got skipped. It was a cute t-shirt that I had purchased almost 2 years ago (so it didn't fit anymore) which is why we opted to have him open it up and show it off rather than have him wear it.
Of course there were lots of hugs and well wishes all around along with hopes of a baby girl. And we pulled this off twice- once at my parents house and the other time at hubby's sister's house. Now, we just had to make sure everyone kept our secret- and boy was that hard for them to do!

After another 3 months everyone was getting very antsy. My Dad started telling people and swearing them to secrecy, my brother was slipping up and telling family that we wouldn't be at the family reunion this year...for no apparent reason; we haven't missed a year since we got married and I only missed the year before that because I was in the process of finishing up my surgical tech licensing. My mom was bursting at the SEAMS. My husband was refraining from making fun of me via Facebook statuses. It was crazy y'all. The only person who didn't seem to mind keeping our secret was Buggy- cause we hadn't really told him!
When 'made the announcement' with my first pregnancy it was so easy. We did it at my mom's birthday party. There were 100 of our closest family and friends there and she was oh so happy to share the news. Everybody who had a need to know was there- with the exception of some of our friends who we either that the pleasure of telling face-to-face or if they were too far- they got a phone call. 
This time around I had no easy way of telling 'everyone'. I pondered how I would do this for weeks! Of course the number one suggestion was to make the Facebook announcement but I really kind of loathe that. I mean (no offense to anyone who does this) but sometimes too many miscellaneous people are in the know. I never made it Facebook official the first time and I was perfectly happy with who knew and who didn't. Plus... what if we had to untell?! We (as well as my physicians) were pretty confident that it was a viable pregnancy and anything that happened from that point on was unrelated to my non-diagnosis but still... what if.
I've seen it happen. One of my friends was hashtagging all of her statuses #pregoproblems then one day not anymore. Of course the outpouring of support was great- but I'm just not that type of person. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. But back to my story...
In the end I lost the Facebook battle and one Friday evening my husband posted the picture and we let it do what it do. But not before I called my great Aunts & Uncle (who at nearly 70 years old are NOT on Facebook) The response was actually overwhelmingly great. The only thing that freaks me out is when photos get re-shared cause at that point you've lost control over privacy settings and the picture could end up anyway in cyberland. But here it is our 'Facebook announcement'... and yep- I had two different ones... what?! I'm indecisive!

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  1. Awww...I love the announcements! With regards to folks keeping things secret, that was exactly the reason I refused to share with family until I was almost 3 months. I have 3 sisters and 2 brothers and everyone loves to talk :-)

    1. Thank you!!! Yea, i needed this to be hush hush for awhile, you know- just in case!

  2. So creative! Your ideas are super.. it freaks me out too when people share or tag themselves in my photos. Lol

    1. Thanks!!! Photo stealing really does scare me. While my pics are probably not theft worthy, it's still scary nonetheless!

  3. Awww, what cute announcements these were, I am glad you decided to share.

    I think when it comes to social media and life in this new world of oversharing, you just need to embrace it or shy from it all together. There not really a happy medium. You will scratch your head hard just trying to keep stuff away from the public eye and someone else will out you or put you out there. The way I see it, this way is better, you control what goes out there (somewhat :)).

    As far as the fear of the unknown, you can't let that direct how you live your life. What if you have the baby, tell everyone and then something happen? You don't have control over those things. There are never any guarantees in life, just enjoy what you have right now because you just don't know what tomorrow will be made off and you can't let that dictate how you live your life today.

    I went to a wedding on Thursday and I was happy go lucky and when I came home on Friday I found out that my dad passed away while I was out partying. I kept thinking that I was posting happy snaps on instagram while he was leaving this world and it made me even sadder, but it's not like I knew. Life is funny like that.

    Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, I hope it all goes well and we have a healthy happy little one in August.

    1. You are so right, I've never thought of it that way! I too have that fear of infant mortality but for some reason I saw it as "different". I think maybe because I think that some people see miscarriage as a problem with "you' versus infant death is seen more as "uncontrollable". But you raise a very good point either way.

      I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts & prayers. Sending virtual hugs your way!


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