Despite our joy, elation, and pure excitement I was hesitant to share our good news with the world. I just wasn't ready to cope with the possibility of having to "untell"- so it was just our little good news- just me & hubby.
However, I was ready to tell our parents and siblings sooner than I thought. We would be spending nearly two weeks at my parents house over the Christmas holiday and my recurrent pregnancy loss was a little cumbersome so they would eventually ask what the heck I was doing. We decided (after a bit of pro and con weighing) that we would share our news on Christmas Day.
Everyone's initial reaction was "nuh-uh!" Uhhh guys-why would we lie about this! It was too funny to see them try to put together what we were saying. After everyone had opened gifts, we "found" a gift under the tree to Buggy that must've somehow got skipped. It was a cute t-shirt that I had purchased almost 2 years ago (so it didn't fit anymore) which is why we opted to have him open it up and show it off rather than have him wear it.
Of course there were lots of hugs and well wishes all around along with hopes of a baby girl. And we pulled this off twice- once at my parents house and the other time at hubby's sister's house. Now, we just had to make sure everyone kept our secret- and boy was that hard for them to do!
After another 3 months everyone was getting very antsy. My Dad started telling people and swearing them to secrecy, my brother was slipping up and telling family that we wouldn't be at the family reunion this year...for no apparent reason; we haven't missed a year since we got married and I only missed the year before that because I was in the process of finishing up my surgical tech licensing. My mom was bursting at the SEAMS. My husband was refraining from making fun of me via Facebook statuses. It was crazy y'all. The only person who didn't seem to mind keeping our secret was Buggy- cause we hadn't really told him!
When 'made the announcement' with my first pregnancy it was so easy. We did it at my mom's birthday party. There were 100 of our closest family and friends there and she was oh so happy to share the news. Everybody who had a need to know was there- with the exception of some of our friends who we either that the pleasure of telling face-to-face or if they were too far- they got a phone call.
This time around I had no easy way of telling 'everyone'. I pondered how I would do this for weeks! Of course the number one suggestion was to make the Facebook announcement but I really kind of loathe that. I mean (no offense to anyone who does this) but sometimes too many miscellaneous people are in the know. I never made it Facebook official the first time and I was perfectly happy with who knew and who didn't. Plus... what if we had to untell?! We (as well as my physicians) were pretty confident that it was a viable pregnancy and anything that happened from that point on was unrelated to my non-diagnosis but still... what if.
I've seen it happen. One of my friends was hashtagging all of her statuses #pregoproblems then one day not anymore. Of course the outpouring of support was great- but I'm just not that type of person. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. But back to my story...
In the end I lost the Facebook battle and one Friday evening my husband posted the picture and we let it do what it do. But not before I called my great Aunts & Uncle (who at nearly 70 years old are NOT on Facebook) The response was actually overwhelmingly great. The only thing that freaks me out is when photos get re-shared cause at that point you've lost control over privacy settings and the picture could end up anyway in cyberland. But here it is our 'Facebook announcement'... and yep- I had two different ones... what?! I'm indecisive!