The Class:2

On Sunday we had our final Childbirth prep class. This week we got to tour the maternity floor. Your maternity stay starts with at the PET (I forgot what this stands for and goggle isn't helping) unit. You get evaluated (maybe the "e"?) and checked out and a decision is made whether to keep you for L&D, send you home, or send you to antepartum unit. It wasn't a big hoopla except the millions of families in the waiting area. I even overheard someone say "there's a whole bunch of pregnant women walking through here"... I didn't get a glimpse of THAT genius.

Then we saw a delivery room all set up and ready to go. It was pretty small and not really what I expected. I think TV does that to you. I loved the show 'One born every minute' on lifetime and either this hospital is way ahead of the game or the hospital I am delivering at is way behind the game. Unfortunately you can't watch episodes on line any more but their L&D rooms were way fancier which is why the L&D room where I will be delivering isn't what I expected. We didn't get to see an 'after the baby is born' room but our instructor said they are private. She also said they remodeled some rooms so hopefully if we get one of those it will make our stay a bit more comfy.

Next stop was newborn nursery. All those people who were in the PET unit waiting room seemed to have migrated to the newborn nursery (at least that what it seemed like). Inside the nursery must have been the cutest room full of people (and by that I mean babies) I have ever seen! This too calmed my fears because when the instructor kept saying that they will take my baby to the nursery I kept think o no they won't! I don't care what needs to be done. They can gather up all their materials and schlep it to my room and do what you need to do in here with us. But actually seeing how they babies were ok made me feel better. I knew they weren't going to torture my child but I just didn't like the idea of someone else taking him or her from me to do whatever they do. What if my little one was cold or tired or just wanted his or her mommy and you people have him or her in there ignoring my cutie patootie?! Well the babies were all fine, no one was screaming or being ignored and there was a set of twins in there whose dad looked so overwhelmed trying to rub on both of them at the same time. It was too cute! So cute- it made me cry. Yes I cried standing in the window of the newborn nursery staring at some babies I don't even know.

It was an overwhelming feeling knowing that my baby will be in there shortly with my husband rubbing on him or her! I tried to scope out as much as I could. Each baby holder (for lack of a better description) was clearly label with baby's name, birth date, parents, and birth details (like time, weight, etc). Underneath each bassinet (there you go...that's it!) was a two tiered draw stocked with blankets, diapers, and a whole bunch of other supplies. Some of the baby's had ink on their feet from being stamped, you could see the ID bracelets on each one, and they all had on the cutest baby hats! It's exciting and scary at the same time!

After our tour, we talked some more about the birth process and went in depth into C-sections. We then did an exercise where each of the moms were given a card that had an action or phrase on it. During our practice contractions we were supposed to act our or say whatever is on the card and our partners had to help us work through it. My card said "refuse to breathe" and my husband guess right away. He immediately yelled at me to "KEEP BREATHING"! Some of the other husbands had looks of concern and bewilderment on their faces. One guy outright said "I don't know what you are supposed to be doing". It was good practice for the big day and I think my hubby will remain calm and be an amazing and supportive birth partner.

She also taught us how to swaddle a baby although it wasn't part of the curriculum. Hubby got it right on the first try on the practice baby! This reminds me to add blankets and swaddlers to our registry. I am now aggravated that it didn't occur to me to take any pictures of anything during the past two classes- especially of my hubby swaddling the baby doll :( By then end of this class I had made up my mind that I want to do the natural birth class to see if I can take a stab at it or at least use a reduced amount of medication but these classes are so expensive!

All in all I would say we are just a little bit more prepared about what to expect in the overall grand scheme of things- but we don't know what will happen to us specifically.

The Class

On Sunday we attended our first childbirth preparation class. It was interesting to say the least.  But first things first:



The food situtation must always known.

The instructor has a long history of medical experience from NICU to a school nurse- and she is also a certified lactation consultant. She has 4 teenage daughters all of which were delivered vaginally; I think she said one was unmedicated, and two were born in the hospital in which we are going to deliver. So, I see how she can be qualified to teach this course because she will be able to speak from a wide range of experiences.

We began by doing our introductions- I think the couple the furthest along was 36 weeks and the couple who had the furthest to go is due October 22. Then we did an exercise where all the dads went into one room and the moms in another and we had to make a list of 10 good things about pregnancy and 10 bad things. 2 things were on both groups positive list and that was feeling the baby moving and eating whatever we wanted. The guys came up with a positive list that included always having a designated driver, and getting household projects done (aaww what sweet hubby’s we have) and a negative list that included having too many pillows in the bed (funny!). We then learned about 3 stages of labor- pre labor, then the first, second, and third stages (go figure!) and then broke down what happens in each stage for mom , baby, and dad too. Within each stage some basic anatomy was thrown in there as well as common terms. Simple enough right? Well then we had to watch a video…

Horrified. I have no idea why. I knew this was coming and not only have I seen a childbirth video before, but I’ve also seen a live vaginal birth (and a cesarean birth) from my days while I was in medicine. I think it was different for me this time because my number is coming up soon. I don’t particularly care for the unknown especially knowing that the unknown is going to be a painful process. Before we conceived, I had heard and read about a wide range of different experiences about pregnancy- some good, some bad- but there was comfort in the fact that there are a wide range of remedies for pregnancy ailments, aches, and pains. I felt like if I have morning sickness I can deal with it through the various nauseous remedies available like eating light meals frequently, ginger, preggie pops, staying in bed (or over the toilet), whatever. With childbirth I don’t feel like there is enough options available to me to overcome this without being drastically traumatized. Sure millions of women have done it for thousands of years and I’ll get through it but there is just something about passing a human through my body that makes me incredibly nervous and downright scared. All the women in this video had unmedicated vaginal births which is kind of what I want. So what makes a women who is terribly scared of the childbirth process want an unmedicated vaginal birth?… the internet.

So there are two ways the baby is coming out: through the vagina or through the belly. Here is my thought process about this whole situation. It may not be your way of thinking but it’s mine and I am going to work it out over the next couple of weeks. And if I don’t I better go with God!

Cesarean birth

Pros                                                                                                                               

Pretty much pain free.                                                                                                

Little to no effort if it schedule if not emergent

Vagina remains in tact

Cons

It’s major surgical procedure

I’ve never had surgery

I don’t know how my body will react to the anesthesia

Longer recovery time

Scarring
I don't know how my baby will react to the anesthesia

Vaginal Birth

Pros

Faster recovery time than cesarean

Opportunity to immediately bond with my baby

It’s the way nature intended it to be

If unmedicated- the baby will not be affected by drugs

Cons

Could cause vaginal and perineal trauma (from ripping)

Painful (maybe)

Vagina may not be the “same”

With 4 pros for the vaginal birth and 6 cons for the cesarean birth- clearly for me, vaginal is the way to go (unless there is a health risk that brings about the need for an emergency-C. So how do I address the cons to help have the most positive experience possible? Perineal massage can reduce the chances of ripping. We all know baby’s head has to get out so why not start preparing for it to come out? The massage is intended to stretch the vaginal opening so that baby’s head can fit through. Some mothers have also suggested sex to help with the opening (among other things) (and I'm not above trying that!)

The epidural is the most common “pain killer” used for vaginal births- easy fix for pain right? Well, I’m not convinced. There are some side effects that do not appeal to me. The first and major issue I have with it is that it sometimes can affect the baby in a not so pleasant way. Some babies become drowsy and this interferes with their ability to nurse right away. Is it necessary for the baby to eat right away? No, (according to the instructor) but I want to because it will help with bonding. Sometimes the epidural can be spotty or not work at all. In that case I now have unless drugs in me and my baby's system. Epidurals (if it actually works) not only takes the pain away but also any feeling you have period. So that means no walking for a period of time and you can't feel yourself pushing the baby- how am I supposed to get him or her out if I  can feel 'em?!

There are alternative drugs such as Demerol and Stadol but these are narcotics and is intended to only take the edge off and won't take the pain away completely- and still affects the baby.

Then there are alternative methods like birthing balls, water births, hypnobirthing, etc. I haven't yet had the opportunity to research all of these methods and I feel as if I have no time to. Ideally I would like to do a water birth (however I don't think the hospital I am delivering at allows it) or at least labor in water (I will find out if this allowed and I don't mean a shower). I have heard very good things about it and the only con that I came across would be that it can sometimes relax the mom to a point where labor slows down (and that is not the point).

So do you now see why I am so conflicted- trying to achieve (for the most part) a healthy and safe delivery as well as a healthy and happy baby?? We have another class on Sunday that includes a tour of the hospital, more in depth talk about cesareans, and some other things I forgot. We will see what comes of this. Pray.